H i s d a i l y v a r i e t y

I'm absolutely with Ricky. I haven't seen my father since I was 7. As a kid I hated him. In my 20's I realized that hate only hurt me and affected him in no way. I let it go. I would absolutely let my father into my life at this point. Part of me wants to see what I look like, I wanna see where I got some of my traits from. My mother says i walk just like him. I wanna have the man that made me, know me and be proud of who I've become. I sound like a sap. If that doesn't ever happen I'll be ok....cuz I've been ok for almost 29 years now.

My dad has never been in my life and if I had the opportunity to get to know him and give him a second chance I would jump at the opportunity. With no expectations of course. Like Ricky said, if you asked me when I was younger I would say No but as I get older I realize alot about life and if the roles were reverse I would want to be given a second chance. The funny thing is that I heard that he always talk about how hes proud of me, but he havent muscle up the courage to call me eventhough we are worlds apart. I love him.

I had no problem letting my birth mother back into my life after she had be away for the first 15yrs of my life, but the part that I regret is the fact that she never made any attempt to "make up" for the time that she had missed. You would think that a parent would want to be involved in their childs life but she made no real attempts to make any progress. In the end, I kick myself in the ass for trying to develop a relationship only to find out that she felt that the only reason I ever had any contact with her was when I was in need of something(money) ,which is not the case. So to this day, I look at her not as my mother, but an egg donor.

HELL F***ING NO. I REGRET THAT I DID WHEN I WAS 16. IF YOUR ASS DECIDE TO BAIL ON ME AT BIRTH OR BEFORE BIRTH WHAT POINT DO I HAVE LETTING YOU BACK IN MY LIFE. I TRIED TO LET THAT SPERM DONOR BACK IN MY LIFE AND IT RESULTED IN HEART ACHE, PAIN EMOTIONAL STRESS AND FINALLY A HUGE ARGUEMENT ABOUT A YEAR AFTER WE MET RESULTING IN HIM CALL ME A FUCKINGFAGGOT. SO TO ALLTHOSE WHO SAID YES MORE POWER TO YOU. AS FOR ME NO FUCK THEM. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES YES BUT IT CLEARLY WASN'T A MISTAKE DURING THE PROCESS. MAN UP AND TAKE RESPONSIBILTY FROM THE BEGINNING NOT 10 15 20 25 YRS LATER. I HOPE THIS WAS NON PR ENUFF FOR YOU J.

I feel that when we are children and young adults we dont understand alot. But as adults we have no excuse. If you would have asked me 10 or 15 yrs ago i would say, "if he/she wanted to be in your life they would have made an effort long ago.." but as an adult i feel differently. Now i feel that there are many points of views, we may not alwaysunderstand why some 1 did or didnt do what we feel was the "right" thing to do. We may never know why he or she didnt make contact sooner. but doesnt the fact that they a reaching out now count for anything. Maybe they cant be the parent that u needed when u were growing up. But that doesnt mean that they cant play a different role in your life as an adult. Anger and resentment is a virus and if we dont get past old hurt we dont grow.

First hand experiance. I grew up without my father and the first time i met hiim it was surprise when my mother and him planned for his apperance at my graduate program graduation ceremony. Only one two weeks earlier did i hear his voice on my voice mail and he sait " (N2K.....George, its your dad) this was in 04. I never asked why or what happened, i just accepted that people make choices all that can be done is correct them when you can and move forward. i learned a great deal about myself by getting to know him.

Damn, what is up with the Dad's now. My husband is trying to be in his son's life and the mom is keeping him out. I told her that she is being ungrateful and she doesn't give a shit. This absent father thing makes me sad, very sad.

My dad was a "present absent father', he was in my life but not emotionally. We have reconnected three years ago and nothing has changed really. I love him and wish him every success in life but our bond is one that I wish was better. We still have time I guess. We will see.

My husband is a fantastic father, the kind that comes home and all the kids come running. They love him soooo much. But his father was a real piece of work. Not affectionate at all and tore his self esteem to shreds. I believe in spite of this, if he wanted to step up and be more of a father to him now, Kyle would embrace him.

I say give him a chance. Live is about change.