H i s d a i l y v a r i e t y

Go about your day like it was normal. It would be smart to assure your new date that they are not a threat and that they are just friends with the family.

sit down and have my new beau be my partner and talk mo shit den a lil bit LOL, then wait..... LOL

@Ontell, you betta be winnin', ain't nothin worse than someone talkin shit while scrubbin it up

The funny thing is if "old date" arrives with a new date

Know your place! I'd be the one playing SPADES!!! HA

Have a threesome after everybodies done eating and drinking................naw just kidding!

I always win I'm a Saggitarius my sighn rules the wheel of fortune (wink)

I'm keeping it real! I would find out who the hell invited last years date with out speaking to me about it. Ummm Uncle sam, u didn't get the memo?
I'd be annoyed but i'd make the best of the situation being that the damage is already done.

I agree with Michael..^

@ Michael, that does not work if it is not your house

@Ontell Saggitarius like to think there always winning but not the case..But if your family like the person I say let things be and be nice..

Tommie sweetness if you dont see us winnin its bcuz u lack vision ......

Ontell that just made me laugh O so Hard!!

But what if your new date aint serious and he gets on your nerves anyway and you been thinkin bout the ex...Hmm Maybe Mama knew all this and was setting up a reunion! uhmm food for thought!

Jared: depends..tell me and ill handle it

@ My babes you are a Virgo so I wasnt worried about you! We just laugh, give it each other that WTF look! And keep it moving!

oh hell no!!!!! Old date must get the eff out!!!!

Pay it no mind and keep going. If they not tryin to come between your new date. Don't worry about it. Unless you still have some feelings for that person.

Say hello and introduce new date.

@ Ty thats why we waitin boo LOL

Say hello to everyone (including old date) and totally get into my new date. Just relax and have fun.

Your thang. I wouldn't feel at all awkward. That would only happen if I still had feelings for them.

It wasn't Thanksgiving ..but another holiday and it worked out fine we remained friends both the family and the Ex....no drama ..no harm!

Kill everyone at the table

Go through plesent. Next day talk with family and old date about the future. That could be ackward 4 new date 2! Everyone gets there shot. But practice grace under pressure!

Genetic compatibility , but then there would have to be a way for me and a significant other to rerproduce lol well a way that is a bit more cost effective LOL

maybe so but it wouldn't be any fun! LOL.

Oh absolutely I would be coupled. I think it would be awesome to bond with someone based on all the other attributes besides sexual.

Relationships would be based on emotion, affection, and respect. Imagine using your mind to stimulate another person than your body...(things that make you go hmmm)

good point franz, intelligence is an incredible turn on

@ Franz P. (high five)!!

LOL, aint that bout a bitch LOL. thx

Oh please Franz, Jared...I love your questions... people always answer with these text book and utopian answers so since I am always devils advocate it allows me to be real. Keep it 100. Most people with stuff that sounds good... but its B.S. Sex is natural and necessary and sexual attraction/compatibility is completely essential to romantic relationships. POINT BLANK

I would have to pick them in terms of if you did not get on my damn nerves

@Dre Day: Now we're talking! LOL

Jeremy your right but the QUESTION IS: Do you think if there WASN'T any sexual desire would we all be coupled? This involves a lil imagination. Tap into your emotional side J and YOU TOO JARED LOL.

I think it would be more primal or animalistic. The animal kingdom couple up for necessity, survival, and procreation. Although you do have certain animals in the wild that are solitary. But I think coupling would be based on companionships

I like that Natafa

so what you're saying is, we would all just be friends! Oh yeah and bored as hell. gimme a break. LOL.

I think we would pick each other based off economic stability and compatibility as far as finances. Even more so than we do now.

A date would consist of the question, "whats your gross annual income?" and it wouldn't be weird to ask.

LMAO Jeremy. WOW I know never to send you a Valentines Day card LOL. You may expect someone to pop out of it and give it!

The same way I pick my friends.
The standards would be higher, because I am combining my life & living space with yours.
That's how I try to pick lovers now.

You are 1000% right Jeremy. If there wasn't no sexual desire, HELL NO could I be coupled up! Not at this point in my life, maybe when I'm as old as Franz and sexual desire wouldn't matter:-)... You MUST have that sexual desire/compatibility. If not, y'all will just be good girlfriends/homies!

TOTALLY AGREE WITH Khalid

OH I JUST LOVE THIS QUESTION!!!!!!!!!! I WOULD HAVE TO SAY JUST LOVING FROM A STATE OF BEING, BUT I DON'T KNOW IF PEOPLE WOULD BE COUPLED. THIS QUESTION IS SO INTERESTING AND DEEP, JARED I LOVE IT! LOL.

MARK u TRIED IT LOL...U SO TRIED IT! Think OUT THE BOX(out your pants) and think of the last time u were in love. Dont worry we'll wait....and wait...and wait.

@FRANZ, LMAO YOU CRAZY

Franz you can tell the kids that aint got it yet! 90% of us are single for a reason. Stop thinking your so unique and special that you will beat the odds. Cause most likely you wont. My point of the question is to get to the core of what really matters in a partnership!

Truth be told...I"M IN LOVE NOW!..And YES, the LOVING IS OFF THE METER!!....Again, at this point in my life, I can't image life without good loving(sex). Maybe if you had some good loving in your life, you would understand...LMAO

LOL. dang Jared!

....and single is not bad at all

LMAO...love and sex is both what u make of it. Thats the joy of all this, We have a choice!

Jeremy let me pop your bubble now, I used to be the Hot Vitch at the club too. It ends and you grow up!

Why does there always seem to be a stigma surrounding people that are single......yet many people that are in relationships for a substantial period make comments about how they wish they were single.

LMAO. If that was poppin my bubble, you are like 9 years too late. I do not by any means live off or through my sexuality. I am not giving it power in terms of this discussion, I am being realistic...

and believe it or not, I am going to take "Hot Vitch" as a compliment since I am so not! I'm old n getting chubby... and dont want to be single anymore. LOL

@ Dre grass is always greener (is that a word?) @ Jeremy Good HUGS to the youth. OMG when did I turn to someone daddy? WTF happened? Thank God I'm aging well, lol

@Jared, I dunno if the grass is greener, however it is pretty lush and green where I am standing or sitting or doing whatever. I find it interesting how when people are coupled they always want to tell you how great being coupled is and how everyone needs to work on getting there. Two months later the honeymoon is over and the divorce is in full effect. My opinion is that if you have not been SUCCESSFULLY coupled for 2+ years, there really is nothing that you can offer.

Good point Dre... Single is actually a great way to be when you come to terms with it. I for one choose to be for good, because Im better that way.

I think ppl are misreading the question. Jareds not asking if there was no sexual desire (subjectively) btwn two ppl. He means if it didn't exist at all. I don't think u can miss something that u never knew. So in that instance we would have to make our decisions based on something more tangible.

YESs PREACH Natafa.

Very good point... to be such a small word, "if" really is a bitch!

YOU BROTHAS ARE GOING IN ON THIS QUESTION AND I'M LOVING IT! @JARED I'M GOING CRAZY IN MY APT READING YOUR POSTS LMAO. YOU ARE BRINGING IT THATS ALL I HAVE TO SAY, LOL.

JJust speaking about me>Sex is never on the table for me cuz I have Hypoactive sexual desire disorder from time to time and for some reason i'm always coupled up till i get bored ,wanna be alone,find out you live check to check or till the person cant handle the fact i dont wanna give up the goods(cakes) then they leave me for someone that could give them what they want which is fine !!!!Alot of these gays may think im full of it but REAL talk sex is the LAST thing on my mind...Ive laid naked,kissed(Twirled) with MANY all over the world and only a small few made it to that gettin in level ....I never have a issue with being single cuz i have great friends,loving Family and MONEY in the bank!!!!! LOL

@ tramel...... what type of cakes are they?do men love your cakes? are they moist and delicious like dorothy's? jk

@DRE LMFAO!!!!

thanks so such Tramel! and lol @ Dre

They are better than Dorothys from what ive been told!!!!And the men always place an order for more after one bite!!!! "only if they knew it does nada for me thou!!" lol Butt as long as they are full and happy im happy for them !!! LOL!!!!!!!

Tramel you are fired, U have turned this convo into a porn movie!

@Tramel, according to Rose, men think your cup cakes are dry and tasteless

@ TRAMEL & DRE, LMFAO!!!

this sounds like a yahoo group LOL

jared I only answered ur boi DRE DAY questons!!!!! Lol........UMMMMM DRE that's cuz "Rose" asked the wrong men....we on two different living levels so she wouldn't even know where to begin to do a survey!!!!! But who the hell is "ROSE" LMAO @ DRE...that was a good one thou!!

@ Tramel, I am almost disappointed, lol yet strangely refreshed that you did not pick up on the banter. If references a scene on the Golden Girls, in which "cupcakes" were being used literally and metaphorically at the same time. The discussion was between rose and Dorothy.

I could last without the sex. If the respect, trust, and ambition is gone, I'm out emotionally. Its kinda hard to figure out if what keeps you together is love or dependence. I don't know anymore. Why you gotta ask this question. I am approaching my 12th anniversary and I am so not excited about it. Same shit, different day. I guess that is why some people stay single. Every relationship is new and fresh. Outside of procreation and family, I don't see the point in monogamy.