H i s d a i l y v a r i e t y

sit down and have my new beau be my partner and talk mo shit den a lil bit LOL, then wait..... LOL

Wed at 11:31am

@Ontell, you betta be winnin', ain't nothin worse than someone talkin shit while scrubbin it up

Wed at 11:34am

The funny thing is if "old date" arrives with a new date

Wed at 11:36am

Jo'Nathan Kirkland

Know your place! I'd be the one playing SPADES!!! HA

Wed at 11:37am

Brandon Smith

Have a threesome after everybodies done eating and drinking................naw just kidding!

Wed at 11:39am

I always win I'm a Saggitarius my sighn rules the wheel of fortune (wink)

Wed at 11:39am

Michael Bierria

I'm keeping it real! I would find out who the hell invited last years date with out speaking to me about it. Ummm Uncle sam, u didn't get the memo?
I'd be annoyed but i'd make the best of the situation being that the damage is already done.

Wed at 11:40am

Trinetta Wright

I agree with Michael..^

Wed at 11:44am

@ Michael, that does not work if it is not your house

Wed at 11:45am

Tommie-Waheed Evans

@Ontell Saggitarius like to think there always winning but not the case..But if your family like the person I say let things be and be nice..

Wed at 11:46am

Tommie sweetness if you dont see us winnin its bcuz u lack vision ......

Wed at 11:48am

Tommie-Waheed Evans

Ontell that just made me laugh O so Hard!!

Wed at 11:49am

Garry Harvey

If I may add to this, I'd be thankful firstly that everyone is getting along, you can also be tackful and inquire about the invitation of your past date but if you're happy with your new date then allow your attention and happiness to be directed towards your new date and don't allow negativity to come in between true Thanksgiving spirit and meaning, and that's to be happy with family and friends. Things could be worst many would love to have just one date, one friend, and or one family member to spend Thanksgiving with, you have choices. Have a Happy Turkey Day.

Wed at 12:20pm

Tommie-Waheed Evans

But what if your new date aint serious and he gets on your nerves anyway and you been thinkin bout the ex...Hmm Maybe Mama knew all this and was setting up a reunion! uhmm food for thought!

Wed at 12:25pm

Kyion Manny Devore-Brown

Jared: depends..tell me and ill handle it

Wed at 1:32pm

@ My babes you are a Virgo so I wasnt worried about you! We just laugh, give it each other that WTF look! And keep it moving!

Wed at 1:39pm

Sabrina Brooklyn

oh hell no!!!!! Old date must get the eff out!!!!

Wed at 1:58pm

David D Cato

Pay it no mind and keep going. If they not tryin to come between your new date. Don't worry about it. Unless you still have some feelings for that person.

Wed at 2:00pm

Benjamin Arthur

Say hello and introduce new date.

Wed at 2:03pm

@ Ty thats why we waitin boo LOL

Wed at 2:10pm

Kharyand Ray

Say hello to everyone (including old date) and totally get into my new date. Just relax and have fun.

Wed at 3:23pm

Sophia Johnson

Your thang. I wouldn't feel at all awkward. That would only happen if I still had feelings for them.

Wed at 3:33pm · Delete

Everette Carter

It wasn't Thanksgiving ..but another holiday and it worked out fine we remained friends both the family and the Ex....no drama ..no harm!

Wed at 4:51pm

Garcia Broome

Kill everyone at the table

Wed at 11:09pm

Corey Scott

Go through plesent. Next day talk with family and old date about the future. That could be ackward 4 new date 2! Everyone gets there shot. But practice grace under pressure!

5 hours ago

11:11am Facebook Question of the Day

2009-11-19T13:41:00.004-05:00

Do you think if there wasn’t any sexual desire would we all be coupled? How would you pick your partners if sex wasn’t on the table?

2 hours ago · Comment ·

Genetic compatibility , but then there would have to be a way for me and a significant other to rerproduce lol well a way that is a bit more cost effective LOL

2 hours ago

maybe so but it wouldn't be any fun! LOL.

2 hours ago

Calvin Coats

Oh absolutely I would be coupled. I think it would be awesome to bond with someone based on all the other attributes besides sexual.

2 hours ago

Relationships would be based on emotion, affection, and respect. Imagine using your mind to stimulate another person than your body...(things that make you go hmmm)

2 hours ago

good point franz, intelligence is an incredible turn on

2 hours ago

Calvin Coats

@ Franz P. (high five)!!

2 hours ago

LOL, aint that bout a bitch LOL. thx

2 hours ago

Oh please Franz, Jared...I love your questions... people always answer with these text book and utopian answers so since I am always devils advocate it allows me to be real. Keep it 100. Most people with stuff that sounds good... but its B.S. Sex is natural and necessary and sexual attraction/compatibility is completely essential to romantic relationships. POINT BLANK

2 hours ago

I would have to pick them in terms of if you did not get on my damn nerves

2 hours ago

Calvin Coats

@Dre Day: Now we're talking! LOL

2 hours ago

Jeremy your right but the QUESTION IS: Do you think if there WASN'T any sexual desire would we all be coupled? This involves a lil imagination. Tap into your emotional side J and YOU TOO JARED LOL.

2 hours ago

Natafa Dojuan

I think it would be more primal or animalistic. The animal kingdom couple up for necessity, survival, and procreation. Although you do have certain animals in the wild that are solitary. But I think coupling would be based on companionships

2 hours ago

I like that Natafa

2 hours ago

Joshua Esmanuel-David Slater

so what you're saying is, we would all just be friends! Oh yeah and bored as hell. gimme a break. LOL.

2 hours ago

I think we would pick each other based off economic stability and compatibility as far as finances. Even more so than we do now.

A date would consist of the question, "whats your gross annual income?" and it wouldn't be weird to ask.

2 hours ago

LMAO Jeremy. WOW I know never to send you a Valentines Day card LOL. You may expect someone to pop out of it and give it!

2 hours ago

The same way I pick my friends.
The standards would be higher, because I am combining my life & living space with yours.
That's how I try to pick lovers now.

2 hours ago

Mark Graham

You are 1000% right Jeremy. If there wasn't no sexual desire, HELL NO could I be coupled up! Not at this point in my life, maybe when I'm as old as Franz and sexual desire wouldn't matter:-)... You MUST have that sexual desire/compatibility. If not, y'all will just be good girlfriends/homies!

about an hour ago

Rodel Wade

TOTALLY AGREE WITH Khalid

about an hour ago

OH I JUST LOVE THIS QUESTION!!!!!!!!!! I WOULD HAVE TO SAY JUST LOVING FROM A STATE OF BEING, BUT I DON'T KNOW IF PEOPLE WOULD BE COUPLED. THIS QUESTION IS SO INTERESTING AND DEEP, JARED I LOVE IT! LOL.

about an hour ago

MARK u TRIED IT LOL...U SO TRIED IT! Think OUT THE BOX(out your pants) and think of the last time u were in love. Dont worry we'll wait....and wait...and wait.

about an hour ago

@FRANZ, LMAO YOU CRAZY

about an hour ago

Franz you can tell the kids that aint got it yet! 90% of us are single for a reason. Stop thinking your so unique and special that you will beat the odds. Cause most likely you wont. My point of the question is to get to the core of what really matters in a partnership!

about an hour ago

Mark Graham

Truth be told...I"M IN LOVE NOW!..And YES, the LOVING IS OFF THE METER!!....Again, at this point in my life, I can't image life without good loving(sex). Maybe if you had some good loving in your life, you would understand...LMAO

about an hour ago

LOL. dang Jared!

about an hour ago

....and single is not bad at all

about an hour ago

LMAO...love and sex is both what u make of it. Thats the joy of all this, We have a choice!

about an hour ago

Jeremy let me pop your bubble now, I used to be the Hot Vitch at the club too. It ends and you grow up!

about an hour ago

Why does there always seem to be a stigma surrounding people that are single......yet many people that are in relationships for a substantial period make comments about how they wish they were single.

about an hour ago

LMAO. If that was poppin my bubble, you are like 9 years too late. I do not by any means live off or through my sexuality. I am not giving it power in terms of this discussion, I am being realistic...

about an hour ago

and believe it or not, I am going to take "Hot Vitch" as a compliment since I am so not! I'm old n getting chubby... and dont want to be single anymore. LOL

about an hour ago

@ Dre grass is always greener (is that a word?) @ Jeremy Good HUGS to the youth. OMG when did I turn to someone daddy? WTF happened? Thank God I'm aging well, lol

about an hour ago

@Jared, I dunno if the grass is greener, however it is pretty lush and green where I am standing or sitting or doing whatever. I find it interesting how when people are coupled they always want to tell you how great being coupled is and how everyone needs to work on getting there. Two months later the honeymoon is over and the divorce is in full effect. My opinion is that if you have not been SUCCESSFULLY coupled for 2+ years, there really is nothing that you can offer.

about an hour ago

Good point Dre... Single is actually a great way to be when you come to terms with it. I for one choose to be for good, because Im better that way.

about an hour ago

Natafa Dojuan

I think ppl are misreading the question. Jareds not asking if there was no sexual desire (subjectively) btwn two ppl. He means if it didn't exist at all. I don't think u can miss something that u never knew. So in that instance we would have to make our decisions based on something more tangible.

about an hour ago

YESs PREACH Natafa.

about an hour ago

Very good point... to be such a small word, "if" really is a bitch!

51 minutes ago

YOU BROTHAS ARE GOING IN ON THIS QUESTION AND I'M LOVING IT! @JARED I'M GOING CRAZY IN MY APT READING YOUR POSTS LMAO. YOU ARE BRINGING IT THATS ALL I HAVE TO SAY, LOL.

48 minutes ago

Tramel A Coleman

JJust speaking about me>Sex is never on the table for me cuz I have Hypoactive sexual desire disorder from time to time and for some reason i'm always coupled up till i get bored ,wanna be alone,find out you live check to check or till the person cant handle the fact i dont wanna give up the goods(cakes) then they leave me for someone that could give them what they want which is fine !!!!Alot of these gays may think im full of it but REAL talk sex is the LAST thing on my mind...Ive laid naked,kissed(Twirled) with MANY all over the world and only a small few made it to that gettin in level ....I never have a issue with being single cuz i have great friends,loving Family and MONEY in the bank!!!!! LOL

Now answer to the questions,from what ive been thur and seen in my 11yrs in the life i would have to piggy back Jeremy comments 100%!!!!

45 minutes ago

@ tramel...... what type of cakes are they?do men love your cakes? are they moist and delicious like dorothy's? jk

40 minutes ago

@DRE LMFAO!!!!

37 minutes ago

thanks so such Tramel! and lol @ Dre

34 minutes ago

Tramel A Coleman

They are better than Dorothys from what ive been told!!!!And the men always place an order for more after one bite!!!! "only if they knew it does nada for me thou!!" lol Butt as long as they are full and happy im happy for them !!! LOL!!!!!!!

31 minutes ago

Tramel you are fired, U have turned this convo into a porn movie!

30 minutes ago

@Tramel, according to Rose, men think your cup cakes are dry and tasteless

23 minutes ago

@ TRAMEL & DRE, LMFAO!!!

21 minutes ago

this sounds like a yahoo group LOL

20 minutes ago

Tramel A Coleman

jared I only answered ur boi DRE DAY questons!!!!! Lol........UMMMMM DRE that's cuz "Rose" asked the wrong men....we on two different living levels so she wouldn't even know where to begin to do a survey!!!!! But who the hell is "ROSE" LMAO @ DRE...that was a good one thou!!

10 minutes ago

@ Tramel, I am almost disappointed, lol yet strangely refreshed that you did not pick up on the banter. If references a scene on the Golden Girls, in which "cupcakes" were being used literally and metaphorically at the same time. The discussion was between rose and Dorothy.

6 minutes ago

Sophia Johnson

I could last without the sex. If the respect, trust, and ambition is gone, I'm out emotionally. Its kinda hard to figure out if what keeps you together is love or dependence. I don't know anymore. Why you gotta ask this question. I am approaching my 12th anniversary and I am so not excited about it. Same shit, different day. I guess that is why some people stay single. Every relationship is new and fresh. Outside of procreation and family, I don't see the point in monogamy.

Facebook; 11:11am Question of the Day

2009-11-04T17:49:00.005-05:00

Would you let an absentee parent back in your life? Even if they never made any contact with them from day 1? Sidebar- I like us to share openly, so please speak from the heart, and not like a PR rep

2 people like this.

Ricky Love

if i was to answer this question as a younger person I would say HELL NO. Now that i am older my mind is different. I find that things are not so black and white no more. I would let this parent back into my life. It would be for selfish reasons I guess . I would like to know more about myself. I wish I could do this with my father, but he is dead already so I cant. But I would let him in if i could.

6 hours ago

Anthony Richardson

My dad has never been in my life. So if he contacted me now wanting a second chance, id feel like its too late. Why wait 26 yrs to decide to be a father?

6 hours ago

Lester Newnue Matthews

Yes I would, God forgives us everyday.. Forgiving someone is a wonderful thing..

6 hours ago

Tony Weaver

I'm absolutely with Ricky. I haven't seen my father since I was 7. As a kid I hated him. In my 20's I realized that hate only hurt me and affected him in no way. I let it go. I would absolutely let my father into my life at this point. Part of me wants to see what I look like, I wanna see where I got some of my traits from. My mother says i walk just like him. I wanna have the man that made me, know me and be proud of who I've become. I sound like a sap. If that doesn't ever happen I'll be ok....cuz I've been ok for almost 29 years now.

6 hours ago

I WOULD LET THAT PARENT BACK IN MY LIFE. PEOPLE DO MAKE MISTAKES (SOME SMALL, SOME BIG) BUT THATS THE HUMAN CONDITION. IF THIS PARENT IS TRULY SORRY AND WANTS TO MAKE UP FOR NOT BEING THERE THEN I SAY LET THEM IN. FORGIVE THEM FOR YOURSELF SO YOU CAN HEAL!

6 hours ago

Aniff Baker

My dad has never been in my life and if I had the opportunity to get to know him and give him a second chance I would jump at the opportunity. With no expectations of course. Like Ricky said, if you asked me when I was younger I would say No but as I get older I realize alot about life and if the roles were reverse I would want to be given a second chance. The funny thing is that I heard that he always talk about how hes proud of me, but he havent muscle up the courage to call me eventhough we are worlds apart. I love him.

6 hours ago

Natafa Dojuan

Sure he could be in my life but only for the sake of being there. Meaning Roby expect anything from me and don't offer you opinion about anything. I live me life on my terms.and you being absent all this time defaults any right to make decisions on my life.

6 hours ago

I can only speak from my experience. I grew up with my Father. We had a rough time. We hardly speak now.

I feel like the window where a good relationship with him could have made a difference in my life has closed. I'm my own man now.

It's sad, because now he wants to reach out, and I'm like pretty apathetic about it.

6 hours ago

Daniel Burger

I had no problem letting my birth mother back into my life after she had be away for the first 15yrs of my life, but the part that I regret is the fact that she never made any attempt to "make up" for the time that she had missed. You would think that a parent would want to be involved in their childs life but she made no real attempts to make any progress. In the end, I kick myself in the ass for trying to develop a relationship only to find out that she felt that the only reason I ever had any contact with her was when I was in need of something(money) ,which is not the case. So to this day, I look at her not as my mother, but an egg donor.

6 hours ago

Ian Alexis De Dier

HELL F***ING NO. I REGRET THAT I DID WHEN I WAS 16. IF YOUR ASS DECIDE TO BAIL ON ME AT BIRTH OR BEFORE BIRTH WHAT POINT DO I HAVE LETTING YOU BACK IN MY LIFE. I TRIED TO LET THAT SPERM DONOR BACK IN MY LIFE AND IT RESULTED IN HEART ACHE, PAIN EMOTIONAL STRESS AND FINALLY A HUGE ARGUEMENT ABOUT A YEAR AFTER WE MET RESULTING IN HIM CALL ME A FUCKINGFAGGOT. SO TO ALLTHOSE WHO SAID YES MORE POWER TO YOU. AS FOR ME NO FUCK THEM. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES YES BUT IT CLEARLY WASN'T A MISTAKE DURING THE PROCESS. MAN UP AND TAKE RESPONSIBILTY FROM THE BEGINNING NOT 10 15 20 25 YRS LATER. I HOPE THIS WAS NON PR ENUFF FOR YOU J.

6 hours ago

Coby J

The lines are never so clear. I’d say yes with reservations. I know that time can only be spent once and is on nobody’s side, with that I’d be foolish not to make an effort. But I’d also be a fool to blindly allow some unknown person into my life without condition simply because they were fertile and capable of procreating, resulting in life, my life…a life I value. I can’t say the same for this person with certainty.

6 hours ago

@Coby.. Well said. Miss you, man.

6 hours ago

having an absentee father was actually a blessing in disguise for me im glad he wasnt there because when i think about it the kind of person ive known him to be to actually have him as an everyday influence in my life wouldve done more harm than good , good riddance to bad rubbish

6 hours ago

Ian Alexis De Dier

*standing ovation* for Ontell. I so agree.

6 hours ago

Michael Bierria

I feel that when we are children and young adults we dont understand alot. But as adults we have no excuse. If you would have asked me 10 or 15 yrs ago i would say, "if he/she wanted to be in your life they would have made an effort long ago.." but as an adult i feel differently. Now i feel that there are many points of views, we may not alwaysunderstand why some 1 did or didnt do what we feel was the "right" thing to do. We may never know why he or she didnt make contact sooner. but doesnt the fact that they a reaching out now count for anything. Maybe they cant be the parent that u needed when u were growing up. But that doesnt mean that they cant play a different role in your life as an adult. Anger and resentment is a virus and if we dont get past old hurt we dont grow.

6 hours ago

George Lino

First hand experiance. I grew up without my father and the first time i met hiim it was surprise when my mother and him planned for his apperance at my graduate program graduation ceremony. Only one two weeks earlier did i hear his voice on my voice mail and he sait " (N2K.....George, its your dad) this was in 04. I never asked why or what happened, i just accepted that people make choices all that can be done is correct them when you can and move forward. i learned a great deal about myself by getting to know him.

5 hours ago

Brian Batista

I'm sure it would be weird in the beginning to let them back in my life fully...but eventually I would...that's someone who made me!

5 hours ago

Garcia Broome

i am guessing yes! i would like to meet him either way good or bad at least i put a face to the person... however it turns out then so be it... i hope thats not PR much....

5 hours ago

Asia Thomas

Yes, I would because it's not about me, its about my child. I never want my child to say "why did u keep my father away" even if it was only one time contact. its my child choice to make.

5 hours ago

Coby J

@ khalid ditto...hope ATL is treating u well… sorry to say it but apathy is sometimes appropriate. Jared, guess this is a hot topic. As a child I remember viewing the adults in my family as infallible….I know better now, I’ve also never been a fan of salvaging dysfunctional on immaterial relationships just to say that I have one. Some relationships are broken for good reason. Sometimes it really is best to let it go and move on.

5 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

Damn, what is up with the Dad's now. My husband is trying to be in his son's life and the mom is keeping him out. I told her that she is being ungrateful and she doesn't give a shit. This absent father thing makes me sad, very sad.

My dad was a "present absent father', he was in my life but not emotionally. We have reconnected three years ago and nothing has changed really. I love him and wish him every success in life but our bond is one that I wish was better. We still have time I guess. We will see.

My husband is a fantastic father, the kind that comes home and all the kids come running. They love him soooo much. But his father was a real piece of work. Not affectionate at all and tore his self esteem to shreds. I believe in spite of this, if he wanted to step up and be more of a father to him now, Kyle would embrace him.

I say give him a chance. Live is about change.

4 hours ago · Delete

Rodel Wade

Mines has been in and out of my life and to be honest gets on my nerves how can you honestly not love your own kids and want to be in their lives, but he does not he only pretends to be but if he genuinely wanted to show up after years of being absent i could be his friend but i don't think i could consider him a father/ parent you missed out on that part would it be easy no would, is there still residual anger hell yeah but does that do me any good no so i try not to hold on to that.

2 hours ago

Kyon Saucier

I did and it was worth it. Of course he had spoken to me but not often at all and he had his share of things to atone for but I would never trade Papan for all the world and I am glad I got to know my pere. So yes I would. I mean he is half of me and why would I not want to know him?

about an hour ago

Ramon Johnson

My pops was around, but he stopped talking to me after I came out. It's been a few years, but we've gotten back in touch (a couple of phones calls here and there). I guess you can say he's back in my life. Part of me is glad he's come around, but the other part can't let him all the way back in.

18 minutes ago

Levern Coger-Sanchez

I would...if only to ask a few questions...not that they would be answered or answered to my satisfaction but at least I would "unload" some of my luggage...and that would be pretty much about it.

11 minutes ago

Facebook; 11:11am Question of the day

2009-11-03T17:14:00.001-05:00

We will keep it light today and do a little walking down memory lane. What was the first concert you went to? Tell us about it!My Godmother got me first row seats to Boys to men, TLC, and Jodeci. And special guest Oaktown 357. OMG

6 hours ago · Comment · Like

Rodney Snell

Lawn seats... Gladys Knight & the Pips and Ray Charles when I was a toddler.

5 hours ago

Wipeout Tour w? Salt-N-Pepa, Run DMC, and The FatBoys, lmao!

5 hours ago

Salt-n-Pepa with the Fat Boys and others at the New Haven Coliseum (R.I.P)

5 hours ago

say werd?

5 hours ago

Rodney Snell

Bradley STOP PLAYIN!

5 hours ago

LaDonna Burns

Michael Jackson- BAD tour!

5 hours ago

lol, what am I playin about? and where the heck u been sir???

5 hours ago

yep Bradley that is the tour

5 hours ago

Tamara Thomas

Mary J. Blidge and Jodeci in 1991..... I loved DeVante! My mom even let me go on a school night in 6th grade!

5 hours ago

Rodney Snell

Not the Wipeout Tour??? I still have the cassette somewhere... LOL I have been right here in God's country (Brooklyn).

5 hours ago

I remember it soooo well!

5 hours ago

Tiffany Green

Janet's Rhythm Nation Tour - Madison Square Garden - March 16, 1990. Age 9 ...

5 hours ago

Tony Weaver

Mine was John Legend last February......I was clearly way behind on my concert going.

5 hours ago

Dwayne 'Rudeboy' Anderson

Rodney, you for real???

5 hours ago

Marcus J. Martin

The Beyonce Experience Tour 2007 age 19 that was my first concert and Beyonce looked so good in person we were in section 406 way at the top but great view of Stage, took place at Madison Sqaure Garden NYC August 4, 2007

5 hours ago

Budweiser SuperFest 1997...Aaliyah (RIP), Mary J Blige, Ginuwine, Dru Hill and Bone Thugz

5 hours ago

Will McNair

I lived at Neil Diamond concerts til I was, like, 12. Mom was a huge fan and thus so was I.

5 hours ago

David D Cato

Earth, Wind & Fire and the Emotions with the migician Doug Flemming or something like that. . We had a Long stretch White Limo, after the concert people were running after the limo thinking it was E,W&F. A night to remember!!!!!

5 hours ago

Mario Gates

My first concert was mary j blige. Last year. Then tina turner.

5 hours ago

Kenny Smith

Hammer, B Angie B, and Oaktown 357

5 hours ago

Janet Jackson's Rhythm Nation Tour. It was amazing.

5 hours ago

Jonte Edwards

New Edition (the orignal gang!), it was fire. But I could barely hear because little girls were screaming and falling out all around me.

4 hours ago

Troy Baxter

The Victory tour

4 hours ago

Tramel A Coleman

The Sesame Street Live Tour : Big Bird Goes Hollywood 1988!!!

4 hours ago

Rodney Brenneman

The Police (way back in the day) and the warm up at was The Go-Go's!...LOL

3 hours ago